A Simple Way to Overthrow Menstrual Taboos

This weekend I had the opportunity to vend my lunar calendars at the Natural Living Expo in Marlborough, Mass. I was so excited to share the Moon Wisdom with hundreds of people and to talk about my offerings around mindful movement for menstruation. To me, menstruation is such an exciting and empowering time, and I was anticipating my excitement to be met by the people I spoke with at the Expo. I brought some amazing organic cotton and flannel moon pads with me as well as herbal belly oils, flower essences, and an anti-viral yoni spray. I was excited and ready to talk about menstruation, sexual healing, and empowerment around the moon cycles. However, the response I got to the moon pads was surprising and sobering, and had me questioning how much menstruation is still taboo in our society.

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Many women at the Expo would hush their voices and begin to whisper when they found out what the pads where.

So, that’s what they are”

Often times women would physically recoil and scrunch their noses when they realized that these beautiful, soft fabrics were for catching moon blood. I became more timid in telling people about the pads as I began to anticipate being met with disgust. One woman yelled at me, “Good luck with THAT!” as she left the table. My afternoon turned around when a man walked up to my table and went to pick up a bundle of pads. I opened my mouth to tell him what they were when he looked at me and said, “I know what these are. How much?”

From then on I felt re-energized to speak confidently about the pads. There were still people who were disgusted by the idea of them, but I stayed strong in myself and kept shamelessly representing the cause, while speaking about the environmental impact of commercial menstrual products and the importance of not using chemically-drenched products on our lady parts. I even got to speak with one woman about how to isolate the vaginal muscles for releasing blood for ritual use without leaking urine.

This weekend taught me that cultural taboos around menstruation are still very real and alive.

The ONE thing that feels most important to the overthrowing of cultural taboos around menstruation is to

talk about it.

Share your stories.

 

 

What is your relationship to menstruation? Share with me in the comments below ❤

Lunar Blessings,

Kendall

 

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4 thoughts on “A Simple Way to Overthrow Menstrual Taboos

  1. Hi Kendall! Thanks for sharing. I feel so much sadness for the shame women have had to bear for their bleeding. I took BC pills for 14 years to regulate menstrual pain and bleeding. After beginning to see a Natropathic doctor for the first time, I made a conscious choice to stop taking the Pill. I had a lot of fear about the pain that I was inviting in. So, over the years I developed rituals to help me cope with the pain without the use of pain meds. my rituals became more and more ingrained as a part of my monthly routine that I began to get excited for my moon to come rather than dread it. I became empowered to take my heavy day off of work, to bleed on cotton pads or a towel, to rest, bathe, drink warm red wine, and relish in my femininity. I believe that this transformation I made around my moon cycle is one of the most empowering and important one of my life, and it prepared me for childbirth and the postpartum recovery (which I’m currently experiencing). I was just walking around my house nude, with my baby in my arms, trying to comfort her, and I caught a glimpse of my nude self with my nude baby in the mirror, and saw a postpartum blood stain on my inner thigh. My first thought was deep gratitude for my AMAZING body, and for the beautiful baby it gifted me.

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  2. Hey Emily,
    Thank you for sharing your story and your empowerment! Has the pain gone away or lessened since you started bringing ritual into your moon time?
    I know that menstrual pain can be absolutely debilitating for some people – it has been for me also – – It makes sense that a person would dread menstruation if it brings so much pain each month…What amazes me is that so many women experience intense discomfort each month around bleeding and feel like they can’t talk about it. We are expected to keep on going to work and living life as usual, and for some women, this feels almost physically impossible. Yet we are expected to still show up, take medication for the pain, and not say anything about it.

    I love what Lara Owen writes in her book, Her Blood is Gold, about menstrual pain being a message from the body to pay attention. She endured years of intense pain and then began to journey into it. If she was experiencing cramping, she would lay down and send her attention to the pain, drift into an altered dream state, and then return to waking reality no longer in pain. I think that often times the (sometimes extreme) discomfort women feel around their bleeding time is a messenger with information on something out of balance… maybe linked to a woman’s lifestyle imbalance or to a relationship. What if instead of feeling the need to keep showing up in their lives during menses, women were encouraged do to what you did, and learn to take space to honor themselves? What if the pain was seen as teacher, and women were empowering themselves to make changes within their lives for their highest wellness?

    And, of course, beyond being a spiritual teacher and a messenger, intense menstrual pain can definitely be an indicator of a greater physical imbalance. Working with a naturopathic doctor is invaluable!

    Keep on loving your body & your post-pardom recovery time ❤

    Thank you again for sharing your story.

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    1. Thank you, Kendal<3 your voice is liberation, womb lifting paradigm shifting Strong heart medicine for the shame shackles

      I love to bleed on the earth❣ Our essence every drop of blood sweat spit is soo sacred
      our most precious resource, it's power!

      Thank you for giving your gifts, wombyn everywhere! When we can all bleed free, we will balance patriarchy

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  3. Hi Kendall,
    I bought your pads at the expo and I LOVE them! I have used Glad Rags for 30 years but yours are much simpler to use. I like the material better as well. I suggest making a larger overnight size.

    I recently ceased my moon cycles but will be using the pads for years to come. They are perfect for bladder leakage! This is the market you have not tapped yet. I would not want to wear paper pads for the rest of my life. Your cotton pads are absolutely perfect for the bladder leakage market. Find a way to bring them there.

    Best wishes always,

    Carol Bedrosian
    Spirit of Change

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